The Everyday Icon Style Podcast

Episode 176: The Mirror in Your Closet

• Tiffany Howard

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Our closets are powerful mirrors reflecting not just our clothes but our mindsets, identities, and growth journeys. Looking honestly at what hangs in your closet can reveal whether you're living in the past or embracing who you're becoming.

• Holding onto old clothes reinforces limiting stories that we're not ready, worthy, or are still hiding
• Style isn't surface level—it's internal first and signals change in our lives
• Cleaning out your closet is emotional because you're mourning past versions of yourself
• The process begins with honestly asking: "Does my closet reflect the woman I am becoming?"

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Ignite your style with the Everyday Icon Style Podcast. I'm Tiffany, your style navigator and confidant, here to lead women in corporate America on the quest to discover their timeless style. Welcome back to the Everyday Icon Podcast. I'm your host, as always, tiffany, and today I want to talk to you about something that is going to be personal for all of us, and today it has nothing to do with trends or shopping, but it has to do about your closet. But, of course, if you've been around here long enough, you already knew that's what it was about, because what you have hanging in there there, it's not just clothes, it's a reflection, it's identity and it's a mirror. So here's the real question Do you like what you see? Now I'm going to pause, and if you have to pause this episode right here, I invite you to do so, because I want you to think about this in a way that you've never thought about it before, and I can honestly tell you right here and right now if I were to go in my closet, I can honestly say I do not like what I see, my closet. I can honestly say I do not like what I see. Now I am grateful and thankful that I do not look like what I'm going through and what I have been through, but when I look in my closet, I don't like what I see and I don't like the reflection that it gives off, because it's not giving off who I want to be and who I am becoming and stepping into, who is a way bigger version of who I am. I have to change that and fix that and I want you to ask and be very honest with yourself when you answer this question, very honest with yourself when you answer this question. There is nothing in our closet, in your closet, that supports you, your goals, whether they're professional or personal. Our closets reflect our mindsets and we get so bogged down with life that we don't even see that. Once that shift changes about how we see our closets not just someplace that we hang our stuff, but as a mirror. That is where we will begin to take stock and say I really don't like this. That is where we will begin to take stock and say I really don't like this, because what's truly in there is a mix of I used to fit these, I got this on sale or maybe I'll wear this someday.

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All of these pieces carry emotional weight. Cleaning out your closet is going to be an emotional process. Your closet is emotional. You are carrying baggage that you need to let go of and I promise you you will feel a lot better Right now if you go in your closet. It is reflecting how we've seen ourselves in the past. It is also showing us how small we are still playing today. Even for me, I have gotten dressed now that I've become more aware of this and I'll look and I'll say this looks matronly even though it's cute. It's like this looks matronly even though it's cute. It's like this looks matronly.

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Now, some pieces it could be something is just a way of styling it. Some, some, but I'd probably say about 80% of your closet is a reflection that you don't like. But it's easy to wear those four or five outfits instead of wearing everything. It's easy to close the door and ignore it when you walk out of your closet. That has to change. So we have to remember that our closet reflects our mindset.

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Style isn't surface level either. It's internal. First. It's not about putting on some mask. It's about revealing who we really are and who we are becoming. It signals change. We don't think that it does. We think people are going to see it in our words. We're going to see it in our actions, and not necessarily so. But how you change, the way you dress, will signal a change and make it loud and clear. So when your closet is filled with your old energy, with pieces from jobs that you've left, guys that you've dated or versions of you that no longer exist, you're reinforcing a story that says I'm not ready, I'm not worthy, and I'm still hiding Because it's easy to do that.

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I am guilty of this. I am going through this right now. So you are not by yourself and you are not alone. It's the hard stuff that people don't talk about. Everybody thinks when they see oh, you know, so-and-so is a personal stylist, so-and-so is an executive coach, so-and-so is a whatever. But they're doing the easy stuff. It's the hard work on the inside that has to take place. I don't care how you can hire me If you don't know who you're being evolving to. I'm not any help, because you're going to be in the same place six, seven months from now. So you have to know who you are, and that is also why even if you're still in the development stages of that why I don't go into and why you should not worry about putting outfits together because you're not there yet. Because you're not there yet, because until you find and deem yourselves and myself that I am ready, that I am worthy and I'm no longer hiding, it's not going to matter what you put on.

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We are, we have to be okay without growing clothes, people, places and things, even if we don't want to, even if it hurts. It doesn't mean failure. It just means you have to elevate. And the quickest and fastest way to elevate is starting in your closet and letting go of that version of you. Because letting go of those versions because there's multiple versions when you let those versions go, it allows the space and the capacity for the version that wants to step in and take control and elevate you to where you need to be seen.

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So you're probably wondering now well, what do I do next? I want you if you haven't asked yourself this question, I want you to go back and ask yourself does my closet reflect the woman I am becoming? And I really want you to sit with that. And if it doesn't, we want to thank them, we want to bless it and we want to let it go. Now, I'm not saying I will never put a time stamp on that, because you are, literally, you have to mourn the old version of yourself, and sometimes what we really are doing is that we know that their growth has happened for us internally, but it's the mourning process that we skip over. So it's like me mourning the loss of my mom or mourning the loss of my sister. It takes time. There is no time stamp on when that should end, it's the same. When that should end, it's the same. I think we get caught in that gap of not mourning it and moving on, which also can keep us stuck and keep us in a place of not feeling worthy and not feeling ready. So there's a lot that goes on with all of that.

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But if you need help, then that is, of course, why I am here, because I want to help you go through the same process that I am going through now. So there are two ways that I can help you. One I offer a one-on-one closet reset VIP day. Now, what that entails is I can either have it done virtually or in person, and what I help you with is resetting your closet, going in there, editing your closet out, trying to figure out what to keep, what to sell, what to throw away or even what to donate, because there are things we can sell and I can even maybe help you with get a couple dollars if there are things that we want to sell.

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We are also going to figure out what it is, gap wise, that you need to fill, because there are huge gaps in your closet now, after we've removed stuff. So what gaps do we need to fill? Do we need to build a corporate capsule wardrobe? Do we need to build a capsule wardrobe for you in general? This is only going to be 15% of your closet. That's it, and we're going to do and lay the foundation first, before we even get into.

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How is it that I want to show up? What do I want my clothes to say about me? We have to reset the closet first. I also have in the description box a link for you to schedule your consultation call whenever you are ready, and I also have my email list list. Subscribing to this podcast or even my YouTube channel will allow you to get all the tips that you need and the encouragement that you need to take action on your changes, no matter how small it may be.

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So I want you to really think about the question that I asked again at the beginning. Do you like what you see? If you do not, I invite you to one of the ways that I just mentioned previously. That is your first step. That is your first step. That is your first step Joining my email list, subscribing to my podcast or YouTube channel, or even booking a discovery call to talk on how I can help you with my Closet Reset VIP Day. I am here to help and serve you, build a closet and build a wardrobe that will reflect who you are, and for you to stop coming, to come out of hiding and know that you are worthy and that you are ready for what is to come as you evolve into the next version of yourself. So, with all of that being said, I hope you guys have an amazing rest of your day, stay healthy, stay safe, and I will talk to you in the next episode.